A Missed Opportunity

Today, I overheard a conversation with a competent professional and a student. Never mind where I was, but the conversation after some formal greetings were exchanged between the two seemed to slip effortlessly into the topic of gays, bisexuals, cross-dressers, men on the down low, etc.. It was basically a conversation about why women can’t find husbands, young men who need their fathers in the home as women can’t teach them how to be “men” and how many of these men (cross dressers) look so good you can’t tell that they are men and of course there was the quick mention of Sodom and Gomorrah. This was the gist of the conversation. And as the conversation continued a colleague of mine, who happens to be gay, let’s just call him Professor, called me on the cell. I stepped away from the area of this conversation. Long story short, I immediately informed Professor of the conversation that I had been overhearing. Shortly after my commencing to share what I had heard, Professor reminded me of the recent meeting that he and I were in where there was a discussion of “teaching moments” or “opportunities” to share something positive when you hear something negative against gays. As Professor spoke, I immediately recognized that yes; absolutely that was a missed opportunity. And in my mind I begin to rationalize as to my non-response to the conversation. Suffice it to say, after hanging up the cell phone, I realized why I was rationalizing about my non-response. The reason was because I felt quite embarrassed that I did not recognize the opportunity and the opportunity passed, but the rationalization is a discussion for another time.

When I was walking back into this particular building, interestingly, I heard the competent professional say to the student, “stay on the battlefield, don’t be a cowardly soldier!” What stood out about those words was the word “cowardly”. I heard it loud and clear.

My god, life certainly does talk to you, right?

And then later, while listening to the radio and as I was continuing to feel awful bad about the missed opportunity, I heard the following quote, “The events of the world are not random, but reflections of our collective consciousness and they send ripple effects through our collective psyche…”


The events of life as you and I experience it absolutely involve our collective conscious – even when neither you nor I recognize it. However, I briefly add that unconsciousness is not an excuse. You see, although I was not conscious of the opportunity to speak up in that moment, it was nevertheless an opportunity to send a “ripple” out into the world to effect change on our collective psyche and subsequently on our planet. I understand more completely, today, why and how my missed opportunity helped the competent professional, the student and I design our world – together! Period, Case-Closed!

2 thoughts on “A Missed Opportunity”

  1. We must all take a moment to speak up whenever we hear someone speak disparingly against a “group” of people, when that person is saying such things within our prescense, hearing range, or eye sight. People have the right to say whatever they please, but not in “our” space. Oprah recently recounted on the OWN Network series “Masterclass”, how Maya Angelou will check you in her home if she hears you speaking badly of anyone. “Not in my house!”

    Maya stated, “…words get into your walls, your furniture, and eventually into you!”

    1. Wow! Interestingly enough, there is a forthcoming post this week, February 9th, regarding the interview of Dr. Angelou on the “Masterclass” series…stay tuned.
      Meanwhile, you have posted a well-stated response – Period, Case-Closed!

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