“Sometimes the attention or support that we provide others during their time of struggle becomes their New High!” – Tony Robbins, Oprah’s Lifeclass – The Tour, tonight’s episode.
We must be conscious and ever so careful when giving attention and support to the “woe is me addict!”. We must ration attention and support sparingly once we learn that the attention and support you provide to them is really all they wanted in the first place. Thus, they continue to come up with new issues, new problems, new struggles, new battles, new men, new women, new clothes, new shoes – new complaints. You therefore provide more and more attention, support, money, cars, excuses – understanding that to be love. In essence you become their “pusher”. You support their new high. I simply refuse, absolutely refuse to handicap you. Period, Case-Closed!